Here is some advice to autistics on how to deal with the world-you normal folks can take it or leave it too.
Lower your expectations, not as in “dumb down” rather, don’t expect things to turn out the way you wanted. Always have a back up plan, consider what could go awry and don’t blame yourself if it doesn’t work. Disappointment is a part of life.
Never accept anything at face value. People promise they are going to (fill in the blank) but often don’t. Most of the time it’s isn’t malicious, they just don’t follow thru for whatever reasons. “I can do that,” “I’ll be there for you,” or the rarely accurate “I’ll be on time.”
Don’t hold a grudge. Canta che ti passa -sing and let it pass, as the Italians say. Holding on to past hurts or mistakes by going over and over them, is a waste of time and energy because chances are the whatever happened is done will never be resolved.
If you really want to prevent grudges-apologize when you realize you have erred or when called on it. The sooner the better and be sincere. We often are unaware or downplay some offense and wonder why someone doesn’t speak to us or acts weird. Too many relationships have failed because of a fault, real or imagined couldn’t be repaired out of pride, ignorance or just plain stubbornness. Lack of communication is a big one.
Apologies are healing and the injured will take comfort from them. We live in an age where they are considered a weakness but it takes courage to admit you screwed up. Be a decent, honest person, own up to a mistake, you will be forgiven. Likewise, accept an apology in kind. If the other person doesn’t accept the apology it’s not your fault either.
Cherish little moments of happiness and precious time with those you love, when someone offers you a gift say thank you, and most of all be kind, it’s worth it.
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